All the lists

 The first thing I did was started making a list of things I needed to do.  First thing was to get a power of attorney, which we were able to do fairly quickly.

Selling the condo was the next on the list.  By the time he got here, there was an offer on the table.  Unfortunately it wasn't amazing but it was one less thing to worry about.  

Lots of random zoom calls to finish paperwork and sending over signed documents via Purolator.

Before the move in date I had to deal with the real estate agent and what to do with the leftovers in his place.  His favorite lazy boy (which he's forgotten about).  I paid a bunch of money to get his cowboy boots shipped to us.  

He was only able to bring so much in the back of his car.

Back to the list.  CRA, will, banking, change of address, forward mail, it goes on.  Thankfully I've got a lot checked off.  But there are still things outstanding.

I started looking at places and booked a tour of an old folks home.  This place was amazing, it was like out of Wallie the movie.  Unfortunately it was totally unobtanium.  At the end of the tour we found out it was $3800 a month.

Back to the drawing board.  I checked out a 55+ place in the budget.  Looked nice.  

Nagging in my brain was "can he live by himself?".  I need an assessment.  

I need a health card for that.

I'm still waiting for the health card.

Somedays I think he's fine, he cooks for himself, he rides his bike around.  Then he does something that reminds me he's not.

Goes grocery shopping with his standard list in his brain, buys more hotdogs we already have.  

Thankfully he rarely uses the stove and I've only caught him once leaving it on.

I wrestle a lot with how all this is working or going to work.  Somedays I'm at a complete loss and can only get a few things done.  I'm doing my best not to be resentful, it's not easy.

Fast forward... On vacation right now.  We spent 2 full days on the phone trying to get things done.  I think the only thing we accomplished was finally getting a Manitoba Id card.

We are exhausted, tired, anxious, not eating well. Thankfully family has picked him up and gave us a reprieve.

During our 2 days off hell last week, he got his wallet stolen at the local bar.  Cancelled cards, changed banking info, etc.  Tried to order in a new sin.  Found out he has it elsewhere.  

We found most of it at a local park, except debit card.  Asking him where it happened was beyond difficult.  Spent a day wandering around looking for it.  

After we gave his id away, he decided to go and try and buy beer.  Was refused service at the LC and the bar (where he had caused some shit about the wallet being missing).

I had to settle him down.  This while we had spent the day getting nowhere.

We were so exhausted by the time Saturday rolled around we basically did nothing for 2 days.

I left everything too long waiting for the health card, we are just moving forward without it.  This is a full time job!

I'm thankful I have the POA, but it still doesn't open all the doors.  The bank is a pain.  In order to get into CRA I need a line from a previous year.  To get housing I need a statement.  The list goes on and on.  As I've mentioned it's 2 steps forward and 18 back.

Today is Tuesday, the weekend flew by.  Got his taxes done, one more thing accomplished.  He is happy, he spent time with family.

He still slurps everything he eats, but he's safe.  I'm sure I do things that are annoying as well.   This is just a part of living with someone.