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I'm already exhausted

This week we have a doctor's appointment.  I'm hoping that he will be able to give me a diagnosis.  The last time we went we got a different doctor, and he refused to give a diagnosis.  Sighting jurisdiction.  When I first discussed with Dad's doctor, he was worried to the point that "they may have to take him away" right away.

We just got back from camping and Dad did well by himself.  I actually had 2 days off back to back, and got some rest.  Although this morning I don't really feel that refreshed. 

On Wednesday I am going to spend sometime on the phone with CRA trying to get his tax payments sorted out.  Fingers crossed that goes well. 

I downloaded this wonderful book. 

https://www.amazon.ca/Our-Turn-Parent-Experiences-Practical/dp/0307357139

Which has practical CANADIAN advice for dealing with caregiving.  Also the nice lady at the Alzheimer's society sent me a care package with a bunch of stuff I'm slowly reading.  One thing was a plastic package containing documents for care and a in case of emergency which I'll be putting in Dad's backpack. 

I am very worried about his mental health state.  He tends to do the same things most days.  Spends the morning reading, gets bored and then goes out for awhile.  He typically ends up at some bar.  For the longest time he was going to the bar across the bridge from us which was close.  However after his wallet stolen incident he hasn't been back.  His new spot is quite far away from our house.  He claims he's jumped on the bus (which scares the crap out of me).  

I know he goes for the same reason I do, to talk to people.  I just wish he would go hang out at the senior centre, which is closer and it's a bit more of a heathier thing.  

We are doing our best to be with him, talk, take care of his needs.  Somedays though, you get home from a long day of work and all you want to do is unwind.  This isn't do able.   

Later this week I need to make some phone calls to my uncle and my brother.  Hopefully I can manage some time to chat.

The weeks continue to fly by.  I think we have 1 or 2 more camping trips booked and then after that I'd like to get the camper off the truck sooner rather than later.  That way when I need to take him places it's not a big deal.  We can goto the mall etc.



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