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Post assessment conversation

Just finished up a phone call regarding the assessment.  Dad is fairly independent although he does have advanced dementia at this point (although not confirmed officially).  Next step is for his doctor to do the official paperwork. 

For the time being he will be staying with us, likely for another couple of years.  There are some housing options that are far to extreme for him currently, and other's that just have epic long wait lists.  Nursing homes are not the best option that is end of the line.  Assisted living is a good idea, but the wait lists are long and the places are expensive.  There are some options in really shitty parts of town.  

Our best bet for the time being is to get some camera's and airtags (trackers) and a medic alert bracelet if he goes missing. 

As far as our mental health there isn't really any options at this point, other than "put up and shut up".  Well not that extreme, but you get the gist. 

Home care is going to be contacted after the doctor's assessment, and hopefully the following can happen: 

Day program wherein they pick him up and take him out for the day.  Likely wednesday's. 

Home care really can't do a heck of a lot for his case right now, as he's independent.  They can basically stop by, ask him if he's had lunch.  They won't stay and make him eat, or anything like that.  He can tell them whatever he likes. 

I'll be contacting his doctor to get their assessment done.  Then we just basically live with it for the time being.  Get some applications going for assisted living and cross our fingers and toes. 

Life isn't going to be normal for a long time, maybe not ever.  It's fine, I've made my peace with in.  At least we now know what is up. 

Tomorrow my day off, I need to get a few things done for him.  I need to call/stop by his doctor's office.  Get his prescriptions filled, and possibly head down to the bank. 

My initial intention was to just sit in my room for the day and watch movies and try and relax.  That isn't going to work. 

Maybe next week I'll do that....

Wait, I just made my peace with it didn't I?  So no rest of the tired.  Move forward get things done.  The assessment guy was amazed at home much we've done already.  He would suggest something and we were like "yup did that". 






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