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Good Day Yesterday

 Dad had a good day yesterday, he was in good spirits, cheerful and happy.  I felt a little better, I think partially because I haven't spent a lot of time with him in the last 2 days.  He goes to bed quite early.  My schedule is going to be changing soon, and I'll have 2 days off back to back during the week.  This will be good for dealing with things for him. 

I've got a call into a very expensive supportive housing place, and his Doctor is calling me back tomorrow to discuss moving forward.  Apparently the letter helped. 

I have difficulty getting anything done around here while he is here.  He tends to keep pestering me, which I know is because I'm home and he's bored.  The problem is making phone calls regarding this is already quite anxiety inducing and having him overhear things may not be good.

On another good note, I wrote Dad a sorta "to do" list for this week.  And he keeps bringing things up, which is good.  He mentioned he may goto the curling club and watch, and he had a shower the other night.  I'll post it below.  

Good morning Dad, it's Tuesday Nov 28th.

I just wanted to write you a little schedule for the week.

We talked about you going down to the curling club and watching some days. The curling club opens at 4 pm.

Wednesday, have a shower. Shane is home that day. Maybe we will throw on a movie. I will likely go out on Wednesday to band practice.

Thursday, shane is home late from work.  If you want to have a shower before bed, that would be a good plan.  Friday is a busy day again. 

Friday morning the bus will pick you up at 9 am. Have a shower Thursday night before you goto bed and be ready to go in the morning.

Friday is December first.

I also wanted to add there is lots of food in the fridge, you are welcome to it. Currently there are lots of oranges.

Remember you can always talk to me at home if something comes up.

I hope you have a good rest of the week.

We are still trying to navigate what exactly we are going to do.  I have moments (like when he was in a good mood and lucid) that I shouldn't just automatically default to a nursing home. 

Our options are as follows:  Very expensive supportive housing (which requires a assessment) , dropping him off at emergency, another assessment for possible Nursing Home.  

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