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The infinite loop of the healthcare system

Everyone is passing the buck. 

I'll get back to that in a second.  Here's the good news, I paid off CRA.  Finally got access to the bank account and was able to convert all the savings to a RIF account for retirement.  We are looking at places for him that will not be affordable in the long term however: 

1.  He saved money for retirement he might as well enjoy himself while he can. 

2.  We honestly can't take it anymore, the priority is to get him a place to stay so we can have a moment to breath again.  Everyday is a struggle.  Today he wants to go get a job. 

It looks like we are going to be getting another assessment, once again in our home.  Which is not good.  This assessment is thru a different government organization, it's the mental health one.  Yes I thought that last one was that as well!  

Original assessment was for trying to get home care and supportive housing.

This one is to decide whether he needs to be in a nursing home, or supportive housing apparently.

So we waited months for a health card, then the assessment we thought would change our world.  That was to get home care only.  Now we are on a list for another assessment, in the meantime he is getting worse daily. 

We just drafted and sent a letter to his Doctor and homecare, basically pleading for something to happen. 

And if the next step fails what happens?  

Last week I found him in his room with a toaster on the floor trying to warm up the room. 

At some point I'm going to likely post that letter here with some redacted information. 

I freaked out on my family last week, because I was just done.  I didn't mean to, but it all just hit me.  I need to see my Mom and have coffee and talk.  


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