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Finally some good news

 Yesterday my wife and my mom went to check out a supportive housing place.  They had to do another assessment.  It was emotional and difficult but went well.

Sounds like the place is very nice.  

Looks like they will admit him.

From what I gather we can move him in sometime in late December.  Now to explain it.

He thought he was there for a job interview.  When he came home he thought that my wife was moving in there.

I know the idea of moving him before Christmas is a bit crazy,but honestly we are not celebrating at all this year.  We are just too tired.

We will probably have to buy some furniture and things.

I'm so thankful for my wife and my mom for doing that.

It's a temporary solution, not long term affordable.  He will get paneled and then be on a list for better care moving forward.

It sorta is like time served.

He's been in a good mood the last few days and more present.  I think because he has had things to do and people to meet.  I feel like this will be really good for him.

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