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Wednesday is move day

 I am feeling extremely guilty.  I think I will feel like that for awhile.  This is not going to be easy whatsoever.  The good news is I am going to have lots of help.  I've spoked to quite a lot of people to figure out how to go about this properly.  There is no "right" way to do it.  Obviously moving at Christmas isn't the best.  But honestly we are done, we can't handle it anymore. 

As well, we are not celebrating Christmas.  He doesn't have a clue that it's Christmas.  One week isn't going to make any difference whatsoever.  

I know he's going to be extremely mad at me.  That will pass in time.  Hopefully.  I am going to check in with the place and see how he's doing.  I know we need to take some time off.  Likely at least 3 days.  There is a good chance I'll go and see him either on the 24th or the 25th.  

I spoke with my wifes parents last night.  They say we are doing a good job, and if it happened to them they would know that we are taking care of them.  Depsite that fact that I feel completely guilty about this whole situation, it is nice to know that we are doing the right thing. 

I've decided not to tell him he is moving.  That is the suggestion from the place.  Once again, it doesn't matter.  He is going to be mad at me either which way. 

If I told him, he may not want to go.  

I have absolutely no idea what I'll be doing on thursday.  Likely crying honestly.  I am going to have to pick myself up, go for a long walk for breakfast or get a haircut.  I may even drive out to beausejour and watch my mother & father in law play pickleball or something. 

I hate to be the guy that says "we need to get our life back".  But honestly we do.  He needs more care than we can provide at this point.  When he settles in I am sure he is going to love it.  The next week however is going to suck. 


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