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April update

 Just a quick update.  Going to see dad today after a bit of a break.  He's not doing well.  I've been in contact with homecare and they cannot transfer his file to the local area homecare as he is unstable.  He continues to have behavior issues and outbursts.  

Because home care cannot be transferred yet, they cannot get long term care involved either.  Which is what needs to happen to move him into a nursing home.

Of course there are wait lists, another assessment (ffs) etc.

It's all extremely frustrating and depressing honestly.

Yesterday apparently he moved his bed into the hallway and was going to move down the hall.  Likely into his friends room.

I've been at a breaking point for awhile and it's only going to get worse.  There is nothing I can do to help him or fix him.  

Tonight we are going to visit after work.  I'm not looking forward to it at all.

I get anxiety attacks on the way.  I really don't want to stay long, even though I feel a bit better afterwards.

I'm going to bring him more music.

And goodies of course.

The other issue is dealing with his bank and money.  They can't won't move him, but this place is unaffordable in the long term.

I don't know what to do.


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